When I was a little girl, all I wanted to be when I grew up was a feminist. I was listening to Ani Difranco before I could walk, and I knew that one day, I would change lives and inspire progress the way she has. And as I got older, I wore my Feminist Badge proudly. I had a bumper sticker that said Vaginatarian on my old Volvo 240, I directed Vagina Monologues at age 17, and I wore my “I heart my cunt” shirt just about anywhere I could.
But here’s the problem – I am not a very good feminist.
Sure, I’ve got all the shirts and the stickers, but underneath – I’m falling behind.
- I went to the women’s march but only long enough to take a selfie and grab a free donut.
- I always think I’m going to volunteer at Planned Parenthood but then I get lazy and just send them money.
- When homeless men tell me to smile, I just smile and keep walking.
- Sometimes when my husband is upset that I forgot to move the wash into the dryer and now it’s mildewy, I yell “MANSPLAINING” and then go hide in the bathroom.
- And I definitely definitely don’t read the news (I’m too busy checking my net worth!)
I know what you’re thinking: she’s not a very good feminist. In fact, you’re wondering if I was one of those white women who are the reason Donald Trump is president. And honestly, I’m not sure if I am…I let Andrew fill out my ballot. GAH! This all stinks of bad feminism!
But wait, before you take away my Feminist Badge (that I’ve had since I was a fetus!), let me explain:
I have a feminist superpower. And it’s money.
I’ve always been good at money. Good at saving it, good at earning it, good at bargaining, good at investing.
And that skill has gotten me out of quite a few jams. That guy I dated who didn’t like when I wore big earrings because they were “too loud.” That skill has helped me buy a house (and then a couple more…), travel to fifteen countries, quit my job and get married (with a prenup, obvs…)
Financial empowerment is something I care about SO much, and especially when it relates to women. As anyone who has read this blog knows, I think money is one of the ways to battle sexism and inequality.
And if I fail in every other aspect of feminism, this is one way that I can contribute.
I know a lot of women right now who are going through relationship transitions. Or struggling in their marriages. Leaving jobs that are holding them back. Or unable to afford to stay home with their kids. Drowning in student debt. Dreaming of owning their own businesses.
And I know that having a strong financial foundation is like having wings. Wings to escape bad situations and wings to reach your biggest, bravest dreams.
That’s why I’m soooooooo proud to announce the Lola Retreat.
(and in all honesty, I’m terrified as hell).
The Lola Retreat is the brainchild of myself and my wonderful friend Melanie. It’s a 2.5 day intimate retreat in Portland totally focused on helping you grow your financial wings. I can’t name names (yet!) but we’re gonna have some badass ladies giving talks and leading workshops on how to get control of your money.
If this sounds exciting / scary / kind of makes you uncomfortable but in a good way, I hope you’ll join us.
And if you, or a woman you know, is facing a challenging life situation, please consider applying for our scholarship.
On that note – I’ve been given a lot of help and guidance in my life. Through privilege. Through sheer luck. From my family. From the fact that I was born when / where I was born. From other amazing women. If you want to come to this retreat and you’re not sure how to make it work, please email me. I want to pass on the help and I’ll do everything I can to get you there